The Adulting Dilemma; The Redundant Growth Phase.

 

They did tell us many lies about this adulting thing. Many lies I say! One of the many things they "forgot" to mention is the Redundant Growth Phase. I don't know if you have experienced this but I have and still do. This phase is as weird as it sounds. It doesn't even feel like it's just a phase that will pass, this goes on from your teenage years to your adult years till when it feels like going away. Will this stage ever outgrow us?? I honestly have no idea.

I'll try to explain this annoying phase. Imagine this: You, a fine young person, you know you have achieved a lot, you look at yourself in the mirror, a million and one dozen times and try to say how much proud you are of yourself but you just can't. Scratch the mirror. There's this constant feeling that the world has moved on and left you behind. Nobody wrote an official letter telling you the world is about to move. Nobody told you where it's moving to, but the world is moving and you are stuck. The funny thing is, you have been working, you work so hard. 24/7, 365. But the moment you take a second to catch your breath the world starts moving. Na wah.

Here's what I've done and what you can do about this phase. I've realized that this phase will never end, I bet it happens with our parents. The constant fear that they are lacking in a particular aspect of their lives. Human psychology is insatiable. If they were an award for the most insatiable thing in the universe, human psychology would win over and over again. Why? 

You just can't satisfy it! You set goals. You achieve them. Your mind begins to make you feel what you did isn't enough and you should probably do a "little more" which you do, and it becomes a never-ending cycle. You are trapped between thinking you should do more,  actually doing more, and thinking that what you have done is not enough. Mtchewwww.

As I was saying, this phase never ends, so when it comes I know that's just self-doubt trying to rear its ugly head and I'm an old friend of self-doubt, it has hurt me, I know all its tips and tricks. It will ruin you if you let it in. I have a list, this list contains all the things I have achieved, I didn't only add the huge wins, I added the little things that make sense to me and make me happy like being able to successfully open a sardine tin after 7 shameful attempts (yes, I did and if you laugh, your tongue will fall out 😒) LOL.

Try making a list of your achievements, don't overthink it, just write it down, I assure you, once you get past 5 you won't want to stop writing.

Dear Gen Z, dear Millenial. You are enough. You are doing enough. You are going to do enough. Nobody ever got a trophy from being killed by mental pressure.

Ever experienced the redundant growth phase? 

Care to share your experience?

How did you deal with it? 

I want to know. Teach us something, let's try to get this adulting thing right.

I'll be in the comment section😊

P.S:

My long silence can be explained with a "Life happens, and I thought I was invincible but I learned the hard way."

I didn't write this post whilst listening to any music, but I've been re-hooked to Show Dem Camp's "Palmwine Express" 

Love, 

Yard Girl💖