The Dating Game is Rigged!

Clears cobwebs* 

Surprise Surprise🎶

I know what you are thinking. ‘A blog post? It’s not even your birthday yet, Mena, we don’t deserveyou you 

Don’t worry; it’s not much of an explanation for why I am here. The shege I have seen has dragged me here. I need to rant, and I need to do it here. 

Let’s dive right in, shall we?

The Dating Game is Rigged, and you might not agree that it is, and that’s fine. The dating pool is a mess, and the ‘streets’ are empty yet filled with all manner of rubbish simultaneously. 

What are we left with but people who mask their emotions? They do not want to love too much, show too much, or care too much for a person they claim to be emotionally invested in, and if you check, it’s because they have also seen shege too, but some people are wicked for the fun of it, and I have proof.

Here are three reasons I think the Dating game is rigged:

• People with good intentions rarely meet people with good intentions. Why can’t two genuinely finished people not be together? Why does it always have to be one party doing more than the other? Why must one person ‘manage’ and ‘maintain’ a relationship? I genuinely believe emotionally available people should go for emotionally available people. Finished men with finished women. Abusive men for abusive women, so you both can fight and kill yourselves. Cheaters for Cheaters, Romantics for Romantics, e.t.c

• The dating is rigged because most people are not ready to do the work. Relationships go beyond fancy dates, gift-giving, and romance. This isn’t Bridgerton, and even if it was, hard conversations have to be had, compromises have to be made, and tough decisions have to be made. Wake up! You can’t be emotionally lazy and crave intense romance. Leave here, please.

• Some of you lie a lot! Jesus Christ! And the lies are so unprovoked, and you don’t even have the decency to weave a web of solid lies. The storyline of the lies is so weak it makes me feel foolish because you don’t think I am smart enough to figure it out. Do better or lie better. Just fix up. 

In the time I have been away, I have experienced so many things. Emotionally, I have experienced a fair share of attachment(that has been reciprocated) and also detachment. Right now, I am contemplating putting AS on my bio so people with the same genotype do not even begin a conversation with me because nobody catches feelings faster than two AS persons. 

Alongside the shege I’ve seen, I’ve also met married people or people in seemingly ‘stable’ relationships who go after me with so much vigor, and I’m wondering, ‘What is the game plan? What is your end game?’ 

Your heart belongs to someone else because you are in a relationship with them, so there's no justification for you moving to me. You are after one thing, and it is silly to mask it behind you being attracted to me. I was born at night, but not last night. I am not a child 

Unrelatedly, when I finally meet the LOML, I will bite him first. Nothing too serious, but I have kissed many frogs (I don't even know if more dey front). Sniffs*

As I write this, I know I am not a saint; I tend to hold back a lot on my feelings (due to the shege I have seen). I am very cautious of every move I make because I know my weaknesses; I tend to get attached easily, which is the leading cause of my heartbreaks. But lately, the idea of a crush intrigues me. The idea of a hot talking stage is exciting, especially when we aren't in the same city. The lack of access inspires me to not commit. (I know that sounded wicked, but like I said, I am not a saint) This feeling is due to many emotions I have been focused to feel lately. The truth is I am a real lover girl who is tired, tired of arriving at bus stops that turn out to be roundabouts. 

Again, I hate liars. Be honest. You are an adult, and no single person will beat you for telling the truth. And do you know what my favorite sport is? It’s running, yes, running away from bad energy and liars. 

Admittedly, I can also be the problem sometimes, but a liar? No way! And that's why I encourage people who find my energy annoying to please, by all means, avoid me because if the tables flipped, I would do a 180-degree turn out of your life.

This blog post is just for me to rant, and I think I have said all I need to say until something pisses me off again, so let me give you this tip as a single person. By all means, as a single person, avoid people in the following categories:

• Married or Engaged (So they won’t use ‘I wish I met you before my wife/husband to choke you)
• People in relationships (even if the relationship is two days old)
• People in situationships, i.e., they are not here or there, your  eyes will peel
• Bonus: People who only want to be Friends-with-benefits. It never ends well, my darling.

Anyway, how have you been since the last time I wrote to you? 

I don’t know if I will return soon, but I have missed reading your comments and your experiences, so give me the tea!

How has the dating game been treating you?

Have you found ‘the one,’ or has the streets been cruel?

See you in the comments! 

Love, 

YG💜

P.S. I listened to Running by Ayra Starr ft Lojay