RANDOM THOUGHTS: RELATIONSHIPS (Your Village People Or What?!)

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Scenario:
You, a pretty girl, intelligent, hardworking, you are regularly irregular. And you wonder, why am I still single? You are supposed to be with the LOYL at this stage of your life, but you are not. So, infinitely you have kissed a lot of frogs but your Prince charming has gone AWOL.
What to do??

You meet this guy. Good looking, successful, will fit into your tik-tok videos, most importantly you don't have to make the first move, (at last someone who knows your worth) it is what you need. You vow to not fall in love so soon, you want to take your time to see if he loves you, you act mature and self-conscious around him but deep down you want to rip his clothes off and you literally worship the ground he walks on. Your friends have told you they don't trust your new man, (what do they know, enemies of progress) you've heard the rumours, your man is a Casanova, still you don't believe, his exes tell you to be careful, not to fall prey, but you think they are just your village people. You won't let a third party ruin your relationship.

At this point you catch yourself: You are in love. You've let him in, your heart is his, he controls your mumu button. And you realize you love this feeling, you submit everything to him, your sanity, your peace, your will to live on a platter of gold. You, cool, calm and collected, you catch yourself sending DMs to other women you think are trying to snatch your man, you turn into private detective anytime a lady leaves a comment on his photo, you have become used to having open confrontations with women "leave my man alone" is a regular phrase! you are not ashamed to fight for the LOYL.

Suddenly LOYL begins to act strange, he no longer treats you like a queen, he could stay days without checking up on you and still breathe. Your village people again! You go on your knees, you attend crusades, you want that witch in your relationship to die. LOYL slowly pulls away, although he tells you everything is fine, you know it's not. You are now dating yourself but LOYL wants you to pull the strings on the relationship, but you still want this. You still want to fight for your love. You loose your sanity because you gave it to him already. You are emotionally aloof. You sadly tell LOYL it's over, but deep down you don't want it to be, he pretends to be hurt by this breakup.

He leaves you and the next day moves on to a new relationship. You are here, saying Men are Scum, broken hearted, you want to cry but cannot. 

You are not alone sister. Get up from this unending damnation you have subjected yourself to. Move sister! Move!

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