Relationships. Relationtrips. And Jara!

 

Hi!!! Welcome to August! 

Today, I want to pour out my heart on an issue that has always bothered me. Read and be blessed.

Let's dive right in, shall we?

RELATIONSHIPS

So, here is how it goes. Boy meets girl on social media, through a friend, or at a random event. They are intrigued by each other and may go through days, weeks, months, and even years of the notorious "talking stage."  Bam! They fall in love and get boo'd up, posting pictures to pepper single people. This is so cute, but I have an observation, how do these relationship goals people take pictures of them cuddled up in bed, playing arcade or PS5? It makes me wonder if relationships these days come with a complimentary photographer.

Away from this, it's blissful; they become partners, friends, lovers. It's lovely to watch, and they get to join the 'how it started vs. how it's going' trend, and we see how amazing they have grown, and we shout God When! These relationships are blissful but not perfect; they may struggle with long-distance personal disputes, emotional crises, Nigeria, but at the end of the day, two "mature" individuals can say they want something and work to make it happen.

*
Toxic and selfish people do not get to have this kind of relationship until they work on themselves.

RELATIONTRIP 

I would have used another word to describe this, but my blog is a sacred place. Lol.

This situation is the messiest, stickiest, and most unfortunate to ever happen. Why? I'll explain.

They are a lot of wrong things, and people here

•The backup plans

The people who do this often have a serious relationship and still keep the extra person in the hoop and make the other party feel like they are the only one. Many young people steady sail this ship, and when you ask them why they double-dip, they say, "you know nau, men/women can't be trusted" Okay, let me get this straight. You get into a relationship with someone you barely trust, and the best comeback is to have a side piece? Wow! Wisdom of Solomon.

•The situationships

I don't know what this is, but I don't want it. How can you keep someone you claim to "like" as an option? It's usually let's see how it goes, or friends with benefits who aren't allowed to date other people, or they are entitled to, but guilty conscience won't let them because it feels like cheating.

Did this confuse you? Me sef, I don't understand. The truth about situationships is they can get toxic. What with jealousy, tantrums, obsession, and unnecessary hope for something that would never happen. Situationships can sometimes end up as real relationships, but they rarely do, and it takes the grace of God to get you out of it.

•The Cruise:

Cruise is what most young Nigerians like to say when they meet someone they know in their heart of hearts they don't want anything to do with relationship-wise but lead them on nonetheless. Or when two people meet and agree to "catch cruise" together, but one party ends up catching feeling, confesses, and everything scatters because the other party wants to smash and pass, no strings attached. Maybe you have a more detailed explanation of what a cruise-ship is; leave it in the comments section. I want to learn about this anyhow behavior.

The Side Piece

I have nothing to say about this one. They will sha catch you, people. 😂

THE JARA

EVERYBODY GO CHOP BREAKFAST. TODAY. TOMORROW. YOU. ME. THE BREAKFAST GO REACH EVERYBODY.

Lol. "Breakfast" is break up, heartbreak. Breakups are not the easiest things to move on from, and even when you think you have, the slightest thing can trigger you to wake up around 3 am and begin to cry. There's usually a long list of reasons why different people have broken up with their partners.

What I can say about breakups is that if you find yourself in a relationship where it feels like you are eventually going to hurt your partner in the long run, if you continue to "make it work," maybe you should leave. Yeah, easier said than done but when did being unhappy in a place that's supposed to be your happy place equal maturity or being ready for marriage?

Some people can be so lucky. The first person they meet and have a relationship with ends up as their life partner. Some go two or three times and end up with *The one* while some eat breakfast over and over and over again, and even when they think they've found the one, they are served breakfast again.

Let's wrap this up.

The matters of the heart can be strange and unreal sometimes.

These days, people don't even date anymore; commitment is overrated. People aren't even of the opinion that you can randomly visit your partner or hold their phones for 2mins. The love cycle is weird. Two people meet, catch feelings, have fun, and pretend as if they've never met before; breakfast is served. Rinse and repeat.

People can't even be unguarded with people they love. Why? Because na Mumu dey fall in love. And if you love, na you mess up. Lol.

There! I've said all that has been on my chest. Relationship talk is draining. It took me exactly one week to write this post you just read in 2mins. Maybe I'll stick to my career and complain about adulthood.

Do you have any advice on navigating this relationship thingy?

What do you think about situationships and cruises?

Tell the truth; nobody will beat you. Are you in a relationship, a relationtrip, or were you just served breakfast?

How have you been? What's on your mind?

Please give me the gist in the comments section. Make it lengthy. I'm ready to read.

That's it! See you when I see you. Happy New Month, again. Have a beautiful August!😊

Love,

Yard Girl❤