Yard Girl

I f you are reading this, it's my birthday. Yessss, right? It's been a whole year since I wrote to you; I have been chasing the bag and getting a hold of my mental health. One thing they won't tell you as you grow older is how much your mental health is tied to having money. Well, not necessarily having all the money in the world, but being comfortable is indeed a good thing. For me? Being extremely comfortable to afford the basics and a little extra in life. I've spent the past days leading up to this day buried in work and looking at Snapchat highlights from 2020 - 2022. Those highlights made me realize how my excitement for my birthday has dwindled. In 2020, I even went the extra mile to get my makeup done and had an elaborate pre-birthday photoshoot. Last year, my best friend came over and took cute photos of me in a dress I haven't had the chance to wear again. (P.S., my best girl also did the same this year) This year, I've gotten a lot of pep talks from m...

I f you are reading this (on the date of its publication), it's my birthday!  Hey, it's been a while!! If you are loyal to the Yard People Community, you should have gotten a drift of what has happened in the past few months since I last wrote to you. I started a podcast . I went to suffer a little for Nigeria as the patriotic citizen that I am. So, a few friends have asked how I feel about turning 22. It feels odd that I'm not as excited about my birthday as I used to be. It's crazy, it is! In 2020, I made time for a professional photo shoot, got a cake, and even had an in-house party with friends. I raised hell and broke shit, literally, because I broke my father's favourite wine glass. Lol. Fast forward to 2021, I was a fresh graduate, a month into my new job, the money was there and it was good, but I didn't go all out for the birthday, I spent it again with my family and best friends. Well, 21 taught me a lot. Life is fickle. People will come into your life...

(Based on actual events, except the untrue parts.👀 ) Hiya! Yard Girl here!  I promised to write back, and here I am!  Before I begin, I'd like to say that I love Love, I love to see relationships that work, and I like to be constantly reassured that I am not crazy to want to get it right in choosing a partner. When I tell people my relationship status, they first doubt me and then proceed to name all my qualities, reaffirming how improbable it is for me to still be single. I'm not single because I want to. Scratch that, now that I think about it, I am single because I want to be. This thing called settling, because I can't afford to not have someone call me 'babe', is not for me. In this brief blog post, I'll share my honest, random thoughts on relationships. You might not agree with everything you read, and that's okay.  Let's dive right in! The Gist I almost fell in Love some time ago. I thought I had met 'The One'. It felt great, really. This...

Hiya! Yard Girl here! I am back like I went to buy bread!  It's been a minute. I’ve missed writing here and also reading your amazing contributions. A lot has happened since the last time I wrote to you. Adulthood is steadily showing me shege but I'm dealing with it. (Abba doing his thing as usual.) I’ll give you the gist in bits. I do not want to bore you. Lol. Let’s dive right in. Now, I have had a lot of conversations surrounding the subject of setting boundaries.  What struck me the most was the fact that some people do not believe that boundaries should be defined in their relationships. They mistake random people for friends, and allow these 'friends' have a say in how they look and feel.  Boundaries according to psycologytoday.com , can be defined as the limits we set with other people, which indicate what we find acceptable and unacceptable in their behaviour towards us. Here's the story behind this post:  So, I cut my hair last year. Honestly, there was no ...

  Hi!!! Welcome to August!  Today, I want to pour out my heart on an issue that has always bothered me. Read and be blessed. Let's dive right in, shall we? RELATIONSHIPS So, here is how it goes. Boy meets girl on social media, through a friend, or at a random event. They are intrigued by each other and may go through days, weeks, months, and even years of the notorious "talking stage."  Bam! They fall in love and get boo'd up, posting pictures to pepper single people. This is so cute, but I have an observation, how do these relationship goals people take pictures of them cuddled up in bed, playing arcade or PS5? It makes me wonder if relationships these days come with a complimentary photographer. Away from this, it's blissful; they become partners, friends, lovers. It's lovely to watch, and they get to join the 'how it started vs. how it's going' trend, and we see how amazing they have grown, and we shout God When!  These relationships are blis...