Yard Girl

I f you are reading this (on the date of its publication), it's my birthday!  Hey, it's been a while!! If you are loyal to the Yard People Community, you should've gotten a drift of what has happened in the past months since I last wrote to you. I started a podcast . I Went to suffer small for Nigeria as the patriotic citizen that I am. So a few friends have asked how I feel about turning 22, well, it feels weird that I'm not as excited about my birthday as I used to be. It's crazy, it is! In 2020, I created time to do a professional photo shoot, got a cake, and actually had an in-house party with friends and all. I raised hell and broke shit, literally, because I broke my father's favourite wine glass. Lol. Fast forward to 2021, I was a fresh graduate, a month into my new job, the money was there and it was good but I didn't go all out for the birthday, spent it again with my family and best friends. Well, let's say 21 taught me a lot. Life is fickle. P

(Based on true events, except the untrue parts.👀 ) Hiya! Yard Girl here!  I promised to write back and here I am!  Before I begin, I’d like to say that I love Love, I love to see relationships that work and I like to be constantly reassured that I am not crazy to want to get it right in choosing a partner. When I tell people my relationship status, they first doubt me and then proceed to name all my qualities and reaffirm how impossible the probability of me being still single is. I’m not single because I want to. Now that I think of it, I am single because I want to. This thing called settling because I can’t afford to not have someone call me ‘babe’ is not for me. In this not very long blog post, I'll be sharing my honest random thoughts on relationships. You might not agree with everything you read and that's okay.  Let's dive right in! The Gist I almost fell in love some time ago. I thought I had met ‘The One’. It felt great, really. This wasn’t just some silly interne

Hiya! Yard Girl here! I am back like I went to buy bread!  It's been a minute. I’ve missed writing here and also reading your amazing contributions. A lot has happened since the last time I wrote to you. Adulthood is steadily showing me shege but I'm dealing with it. (Abba doing his thing as usual.) I’ll give you the gist in bits. I do not want to bore you. Lol. Let’s dive right in. Now, I have had a lot of conversations surrounding the subject of setting boundaries.  What struck me the most was the fact that some people do not believe that boundaries should be defined in their relationships. They mistake random people for friends, and allow these 'friends' have a say in how they look and feel.  Boundaries according to psycologytoday.com , can be defined as the limits we set with other people, which indicate what we find acceptable and unacceptable in their behaviour towards us. Here's the story behind this post:  So, I cut my hair last year. Honestly, there was no

  Hi!!! Welcome to August!  Today, I want to pour out my heart on an issue that has always bothered me. Read and be blessed. Let's dive right in, shall we? RELATIONSHIPS So, here is how it goes. Boy meets girl on social media, through a friend, or at a random event. They are intrigued by each other and may go through days, weeks, months, and even years of the notorious "talking stage."  Bam! They fall in love and get boo'd up, posting pictures to pepper single people. This is so cute, but I have an observation, how do these relationship goals people take pictures of them cuddled up in bed, playing arcade or PS5? It makes me wonder if relationships these days come with a complimentary photographer. Away from this, it's blissful; they become partners, friends, lovers. It's lovely to watch, and they get to join the 'how it started vs. how it's going' trend, and we see how amazing they have grown, and we shout God When!  These relationships are blis

I am a huge cry baby. I cry over every and anything, I cry when I think of the pain people go through when they lose the ones they love. I cry when I lose people I love. I try every time to fill my head with happy thoughts, I avoid sad movies, songs, generally, things that dampen my mood. I always want to be happy, optimistic, positive. I am happy to the point of being tagged unserious sometimes. Lol. I constantly search for happy outlets because just a single thought or word could cause PTSD and I'd begin to think up random unhappy things and boom I'm sad. Sadness is a pit I've fallen into so many times, it is so easy to get in and a herculean task to get out of and I'd rather totally avoid seeing that pit. On Death; I'd have loved to describe death with a parable but I can't. Death is an unwanted guest, it shows up at your doorstep and you can not tell it to leave even if you tried. The strange part about death is that it takes the seemingly "immortal&quo

  H eyyyyo !! Yard Girl here! It's a new month! Happy May!  So, I was going to do the new month new me thing but Nah! Scratch that. Same old. Same old but a whole lot of things are going to change with this new month. This girl is going to be a graduate! Big news, no? Massive news, yes? I'm excited, you know.  First off, there's something I just recently discovered, it's called The Post-Pandemic Effect, you know me and my theories. Lol. I'll explain.  The Post-Pandemic Effect is mostly common among students, it occurs when you've been temporarily uprooted from a certain routine for an unusual period and you're suddenly forced back into that system. Then it dawns on you, how do you adjust? Studying? Social life? Friends? Finances? Are you still going to fit in?  I had to leave my job when school resumed. I admit I got used to the money. The money was good. I loved that place. I still can't get over that money and my daily routine. Lol. Surviving on a mont